Anyone who knows me is aware, I live for eggnog and pumpkin season. Well guess what, I found my first batch of nog, yes. It’s a beautiful Fall day in the Pacific Northwest so I off course got up and put on the crockpot full of Mississippi chicken and yep Punkin Eggnog cake. You all need smell o vision because my house is where you wanna be today. Jason I’m thinking of you today 😃
My son is home and for the first time in a year I have exhaled. The book I wrote to not go crazy on this wild journey of my son’s addiction and incarceration is available this Thursday, September 12th on Kindle and Amazon. My hope is that anyone who reads it will know they are not alone and that I can provide some laughter and hope along the way.
I have learned so much about an rv in the last month, I thought I would share the adventure Hooking up the truck to the camper is the hardest thing, first you have to back right up to the hitch connector and wait for the clamp to engage. Once this is done we have to pull it out of our steep ass driveway, hitch grinding the entire time into the street so we can get level enough to put on the stabilizer bars. These damn things scare the crap out of me so I simply stand back and watch. You have to put the trailer tongue down to take the weight off the truck then put on these steel bars in with a pry bar that makes a loud noise when on, good lord. Oh then there is two chain connectors that attach to the truck and the power supply for the lights to work. I’m tired just talking about it even though after the 3rd time we did the whole process in under 10 minutes.
On our first trip we learned that you need atleast a 4000 watt generator after we lost all power, oh n check your battery connectors to make sure they are all hooked up, another lesson as ours weren’t. Locate the gfi before you leave just in case it gets tripped you know where to find it, its in our bathroom, who knew.
The great part is we get to sleep in our own bed, no one bothers us, and we get to go to great places. The pictures below were taken at Mt Hood.
Congratulations! “Mad As Hell A Mom’s Journey” is available for pre-order in the Kindle Store.
It is available* for customers to pre-order here.
Customers who pre-ordered the book will receive the content on the release date, 09/16/2019.
The paperback will be available on 9/16/2019 but cannot be pre-ordered.
I hope that anyone who has ever had a child incarcerated will find one thing in the book that makes them laugh. Thanks for the support.
All proceeds from sales will be dedicated toward the fight for the removal mandatory minimum sentencing for first time and non violent drug offenders.
We just arrived home from our annual Grass cart racing camping trip in Wamic Oregon and let me tell you we had FUN…. There were 12 of us and we for the first time hooked up the new camper. Let me say out loud that we know nothing about a RV, I watched Youtube, yep and you can learn alot from other people so use your resources but there are things they don’t tell you and I am going to let you all know.
Our RV is a 2017 with a power slide and awning, this includes legs (stabilizer bars and a tongue jack also electric) this is fantastic as you are not manually cranking to get your RV setup at the site but that frickin hitch and hooking up to the truck is a pain in my ass. Hooking up is the easy part, there is this little latch on the hitch that is up when not connected and down when fully engaged with the hitch. It sucks bad, you have to be at exactly the right frickin angle for it to click and release and most camp sights are not level so it is the MOST frustrating part of the entire process. We hooked up in 2.5 seconds but getting that hitch to release when you park is dumb.. you have to figure out if you are uneven (which you will be if you are in a forest camp site) how many plastic blocks you need under the wheels to get level. We needed 3 and my husband deserves Kudo’s as he had to miss a big ass tree and get on top of the blocks without running me over. Maybe that was his plan ha as I have great life insurance…. obviously I survived
So here is what I learned this week:
1. get some walkie talkies- they allow you to talk to the driver (husband) outside the vehicle, they were great. We bought ours at Bimart for $30 bucks
2. make sure you have some leveling blocks- we bought the 10 pack Campco but I will be investigating other options on Amazon, mostly because those little yellow blocks move when you back up.
3. A 2000 watt inverter compressor is not big enough power to operate your trailer. The microwave absolutely needs 4000 watts and if you do not have enough external power your breaker will pop and NO outlets will work. This cannot be reset until you get to a place where you can plug in to a 30 amp outlet to correct.
4. Grey and black water tanks- grey is shower and dish water, empty it as often as you like (anywhere). The black tank my husband the germaphobe is not going near. We do not poop in our camper, (unless we were in the middle of frickin nowhere why put yourself thru the trauma) but regardless we need to empty and there is a special hose for this task. I have no issue doing this, put on your rubber gloves and hook up a rinse hose. I put a cup of fabric softener in the black tank before we leave camping and some easy chemicals like borac acid laundry soap and baking soda, easy, cheap and works fantastic.
5. Snoring in the wood cannot be controlled so don’t try.
Happy camping more to follow
My husband and I go on an annual tent camping trip every July with a group of friends. Yes we sleep in a tent but anyone who knows my husband understands that he is a glamper not a camper.
- He has a water module that hangs from a tree and a room that goes underneath it so you can wash off, and the water is even warm after being heated by the sun all day.
- The tent, this mac daddy Mountain HardWear beauty that a man over 6 feet can stand straight up in.
- Cooking over a camp fire, ha you say. We have a stainless steel massive camp stove that runs on propane.
- Air mattress, double decker with an auto pump so no sleeping on the cold ground.
- Rugs, rugs and more rugs. My husband doesn’t want dirt tracked in the tent, ha
So I tell you all this because we finally took the plunge and purchased an actual RV. It is a 27 foot with 2 pop out beds and a slider. Now we were not planning on buying a trailer. We kind of fell into it when a gal I used to work with posted it for sale at a price we felt was too good to pass up.
- How in the hell do you back a trailer that is 27 ft long when the only thing we have ever towed is a small tent trailer when our boys were young?
- Practice for my husband as I won’t be doing that, EVER. I have a hard time backing up my smart car ;0)
- Turn the wheels left to go right, huh that makes no sense
- You Tube is our newest obsession
- Tires- who knew that tires on a trailer only last a max of 7 years
- A trip to the tire shop to ensure we don’t have any unforeseen blow outs
- The tires are pretty cheap and have hard side walls unlike car tires and have different weight limitations, who knew
- A trip to the tire shop to ensure we don’t have any unforeseen blow outs
- A generator- we learned that if you are camping somewhere without power (such as the camp site we stay at )you will need one if you want to have lights, fridge, etc.
- An inverter I learned is quiet and pretty efficient
- I found one on Craigslist that is 2000 watts which is plenty big for our use
- Gear- lots and lots of gear
- A sanitation hose used to empty the poop tank
- My husband has already told everyone there is no pooping allowed in the trailer, ha
- Power cables, stabilizer jacks, hoses, stabilizer bars (keep the trailer from swaying while being towed), leveling pads, and too much other crap to mention
- A sanitation hose used to empty the poop tank
- Decorations- as the thrift store queen, I bought sheets, hanging storage, and kitchen stuff galore.
- Amazon is your friend, next day delivery and everything you ever need in life for an RV.
- Etsy- the custom decals are fantastic and super easy to apply
- Joanne’s- fabric on sale and then 50 % off, replace those old ugly curtains
Here are some photo’s. Our adventure is in 2 weeks and we cannot wait to make the maiden voyage. I had to add some flair so I added some super fun wood look self adhesive contact paper. Amazon 9 bucks and what a great update. Hand painted closet handles (home goods $12) and fun dog artwork, replaced those ugly green curtains (Joanne fabrics $15), ram head (a buck at the goodwill). oh and nothing beats some good ole elbow grease- we scrubbed every inch of the trailer inside and out and it looks beautiful. Hope you enjoy
This guy and I have been hanging out for 29 years. It seems crazy that over half my life I have spent with him. There have been many bumps and challenges and it takes commitment to make it last but it is so worth the effort. When we said the words for better or worse we meant it, I’m grateful for the journey, love, and joy he brings to my hyperactive self, ha. Happy Anniversary to us
Sen. Todd Lakey, R-Nampa, the chairman of the Senate Judiciary Committee, should rethink his stated intention to deny a hearing for a bill reforming Idaho’s mandatory minimum sentencing system.
The bill is a bipartisan piece of legislation cosponsored by Rep. Bryan Zollinger, R-Idaho Falls, and Rep. Ilana Rubel, D-Boise. It passed the House in a 48-21 vote Monday.
But Lakey has indicated he won’t give the bill a hearing in the Senate, killing it while ducking a debate about an important issue facing the state. Instead, he plans to introduce his own, greatly watered-down version of the bill.
There’s an argument that the policy expertise of experienced chairmen can prevent bad legislation from passing, and that may be valid in some cases. But Lakey’s position flies in the face of most available evidence on this issue, undermining any claim to expertise he might make.
Decades of research on deterrence in the criminal justice system lead to a clear conclusion: Longer sentences don’t deter crime. Rather, what deters crime is the certainty of apprehension and punishment.
You’re likely to get a much greater reduction in drug trafficking by catching lots of drug dealers and giving them lighter sentences than by catching a few and sentencing them harshly.
Researchers have also dug deep to find whether longer prison stays reduce the risk that a convict will re-offend. Generally, those studies have found that a longer prison stay either has no detectable effect on recidivism rates or that a longer prison stay increases the risk of recidivism.
But tying judges’ hands to force longer sentences does have one predictable effect: It causes an explosion in the prison population. As a result of “tough on crime” mandatory minimum sentences throughout the nation, the U.S. has far and away the world’s highest incarceration rate. It’s about 20 percent higher than Cuba’s rate, nearly twice as high as Russia’s and almost six times as high as China’s.
Even El Salvador, a country beset by gangs with a murder rate 10 times higher than the U.S., has a lower incarceration rate.
More comparable societies, like England, France and Germany, typically have an incarceration rate that’s between one-fifth and one-tenth of ours. Despite their comparative laxity in sentencing, they generally have much lower crime rates as well.
Idaho’s prisons are so overcrowded that the state is paying a private prison company to house some 700 inmates at a facility in Texas. And the state has kicked around the idea of building a new prison. The estimated price-tag? Half a billion dollars. You could pay for a lot of additional law enforcement with that money. The total annual budget for the Idaho State Police last year was about $70 million.
In short, mandatory minimums are a great way of spending a lot of money and imposing a lot of pain, but they provide no clear benefit to society.
Lakey may disagree with the bill and the bulk of the empirical research, which clearly supports it. That’s fine. He should simply grant the bill a hearing, make his argument, and convince his committee to vote against it.
Unilaterally preventing Senate debate on a bipartisan, sensible piece of legislation that overwhelmingly passed the House, however, is unacceptable.
I am writing a book, my oldest going to jail has prompted me to put in writing all the things through out the years that moms deal with.
Title: Mad as Hell
A Moms Journey
Keep watching I will post a link to it once it is available. Truly it is my way of dealing with stress while educating and making people laugh
My husband asks me all the time why I watch reality TV. He is like why would you just want to watch a bunch of people screaming and calling each others bitches, ha. Well let me explain:
- My life seems super chill when I see these bitches (their word, not mine) screaming at each other all the time
- I see so many saggy boobs in belly button cut tops and dresses that I feel like my assets look pretty fan friction tactic.
- my mom always told me to keep them guessing and only show what you got to those who deserve to see it (so so so true)
- I feel smart and like my vocabulary is super advanced, some of the words I don’t even know what they mean and that is a good thing
- I recognize how materialistic most of these people are and it makes me appreciate the fact that I don’t want or need a fancy bag, car, house to impress people who probably can’t stand me or can’t remember my name.
- As Dave Ramsey would say why do you need a fancy car to impress people at a stop light you don’t know ;0)
- My velvet back pack from Target gets lots of compliments
- I recognize what people I don’t want to be around and how I would never allow people to speak to me.
- We know our worth and treasure the fantastic people we call friends
- I have learned to love my face, now this is not to say I don’t get botox on the regular and I am not opposed to maintenance to enhance your features but when I see you and don’t know who you are because your nose is missing or your lips are so big they look like they are going to pop, too too much…
- Last if you married into money and don’t do anything to contribute to the bottom line but demand at every turn bigger and better homes, cars, etc. you need to go.
I am so glad I am just a normal working woman who lives a quiet simple fantastic life with lotsa love.