Proud to be a STRONG woman

I felt some kinda way today when I saw a woman I know post a video of her beautiful home with a view. So let me break it down for real. I have worked since I was 13, put myself through college while taking my 2 sons with me to night classes. I have accomplished so much, owned 3 homes and truly am so proud of being able to say I don’t need a man. I love my husband of 30 years but certainly would be a ok without him. This woman since i have met her has looked for ONLY men with money who could take care of her so she could just be cute with no job. And there have been lots. My question is how can you be proud when nothing you have belongs to you? Maybe I’m different but if I drive a Hyundai I paid for it is better than a benz that dude can yank at anytime.

Pure stupidity at its finest

Today I attended my CPR/first aid certification course. I arrived and a man with a keg beer belly and long white hair was in the back of the room, also a participant. I being friendly Fran spoke to this ass hat and asked him where he worked in our organization. He informed me he is a crew chief for one of our offender work crews. Ok I am passionate about rehabilitation and second chances so I engaged in a very brief conversation.

What the hell, this dude in 3 minutes asked how long I worked for our company. When I replied that I relocated from Idaho. The first thing out of his mouth was how could I move from such a beautiful state with such wonderful Trumpster conservatives. Ugh that’s exactly the reason I moved to get away from the bigots I watched treat non white and LGBTQ like shit my entire life.

It got worse, he refused to participate in the CPR portion of the course and sat for 4 hours doing absolutely nothing other than watching us. He stated he was only interested in the first aid portion of the course. What?

The point of this post is to demonstrate the quality of people we have working with men trying to rebuild their lives. I cannot imagine how he treats the work crew participants and know for certain in just 3 minutes it is horrible. We have to identify and stop allowing people like this man to have any power or influence with anyone coming out of the criminal justice system.

Racism in unexpected places

My oldest child is a Uber driver and has met some fantastic and fascinating people. Last night was one of his more interesting experiences. He went to pick up a rider and she refused to get in the car because he was black. Ok the problem with this is so was she, wtf? Has she lost her damn mind? It is already hard for young brown men to deal with stigma from other races but this is over the top.  Little did this woman know my son has his bachelor’s degree, is buying a house at 25, and was a decorated college athlete.

As he was telling me this my first reaction was for him to say well you can ride with my 50% white gene if you don’t like the black ones but instead I reiterated to him that ignorant people come in all shapes and colors.

In 2017 it amazes me we still deal with such stupidity but the one bright spot is she walked her ass in the pouring rain to wherever she was headed while my son was warm and dry in his brand new car….

Old Cranky Home Owners

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We moved into a neighborhood just over a year ago that has a homeowners association which can be both good and bad. I was excited because everyone’s property is maintained but not so happy because some of the rules are silly in my opinion. I went to several meetings when I first moved in and it became evident that if you were under 75 and not retired that you did not fit in with the board. The next month they had elections and someone put in my name for president to ensure that the homeowners were actually being listened to since the CC&R’s have not been updated since 1998. Well on election night the old guy we will call him Bill won the vote because his friends on the committee would not count 50% of the votes for people whose homeowners dues were not paid in full, which is nowhere stated in the rules so super illegal but ok.

Last night was the first meeting I have been to since and talk about a shit show. Bill had an attitude from the jump when myself and the one other homeowner from the community arrived. The other lady who attended the meeting during Q&A time ask if there was a reason that the trim on her townhouse was a lighter color than our newly painted trim and this dumby said well we live in a single family home and you only live in a townhouse. Ugh ok that was not the question. You see where this is headed right me being young and full of spit and vinegar.

We moved onto holiday decorations and I asked what the date is that decorations needed to be removed and if they weren’t down what the process was for the committee. The vice president (Jill) made a joke and said well after 2 weeks we rip them down, everyone laughed and Bill lost his damn mind.

He looked directly at me and said what are you laughing at and I said Jill’s joke, he then proceeded to tell me how he was providing me the opportunity to improve my “reputation” in the neighborhood because no one voted for me for president because they didn’t like me, so it was on at that point, I knew I was dealing with a 12 year old. I said ok well let’s review the facts, 50% of the votes weren’t considered and if they were you wouldn’t be president but that is beside the point your issue is you don’t want anyone questioning or disagreeing with you. I think you have forgotten the whole purpose of this meeting is to allow owners to voice their concerns and provide input so if you don’t like that too bad, I am not intimidated by you being belligerent. He stands up and says I can’t stand you and I am leaving, I said great. I continued to smile and that made him even angrier as he stormed out pointing his finger at me the entire time. Good lord he has truly lost his marbles.

Needless to say after he left and Jill (the VP who made the joke) took over the meeting and it was fantastic. We talked about welcoming new people to the neighborhood; how to improve communications, etc. so I am hopeful today that Bill is resigning, ha. If not I’ll show up at the next meeting.

Moving again

When we relocated to Portland we leased a townhouse that we thought we would live in until we were ready to buy, ha surprise. We were told this week we had 20 days to find a new place to live, yes you heard me 20 days now how in the hell are you supposed to do that? The lady who owns the town house wants to sell it, ok it’s not sold yet as a matter a fact it’s not even listed. Then she wants the realtor to come in and take photos with our stuff staged in the house, really. Let’s talk move in costs, if we want to rent again we have to come up with deposit, first, last and pet deposit, in 20 days. I think we might be living under the bridge in a tent. In all seriousness what if we didn’t have somewhere to go? Thank god we have friends who we can stay with temporarily but other people may not be so lucky which makes me mad that this lady is so unfeeling she doesn’t give a rip.
So me being the strong willed woman I am, I called a mortgage guy submitted my paperwork the same day and got a preapproval letter to buy. We went looking this weekend and made a offer on a house. The market is certainly a sellers market but we should know tomorrow if our offer was accepted..
Our house we own in Idaho is leased but we are putting it on the market this month also. The realtor calls me and says you may want to wait to list it because every room in the house looks like a toy store with crap everywhere. I flat out told her you tell the renters they need to pick one of the four bedrooms and make it the frickin toy room. When did people become so stupid? I’m just sayin