New book

I am writing a book, my oldest going to jail has prompted me to put in writing all the things through out the years that moms deal with.

Title: Mad as Hell

A Moms Journey

Keep watching I will post a link to it once it is available. Truly it is my way of dealing with stress while educating and making people laugh

Mandatory Minimum Sentencing Sucks

So today on my blog I am going to be serious because I’m mad as hell and need to talk about the legal system in this country.

Mandatory minimum sentences for drug offenses is the most asinine law on the books to date and does nothing but cause massive overcrowding of all prisons and shifts power away from judges and into the hands of prosecutors.

If you don’t know what this is here’s a quick overview:

Mandatory minimum sentencing laws are laws which force a judge to hand down a minimum prison sentence for certain crimes, such as drug possession. These mandatory minimum sentences are set for possession of a drug over a certain amount and are set by Congress, not judges. Judges cannot lower these sentences, even for extenuating circumstances that would otherwise lessen the punishment.

This proves to be the biggest problem with mandatory minimum sentencing. Originally, these laws were passed to ensure that certain criminals served long prison sentences; these laws are cruel and ineffective. They have pointed out that these laws often unfairly target low-level offenders while the worst offenders tend to evade the system.

The saddest part of this whole equation is that this disproportionately impacts people of color.

One Example:

Texas law assigns penalties based on the weight of certain types of drugs, dividing the drugs into penalty groups to determine the type of felony and punishment range.

In Texas, possessing less than 1 gram of cocaine is a state jail felony with up to 2 years in prison and a fine of up to $10,000. Whereas possessing 1 – 4 grams is a 2nd degree felony with possible punishment of 2 – 20 years in prison and a fine of up to $10,000. Under federal law, selling 28 grams of crack cocaine triggers a mandatory minimum sentence of 5 years in prison, regardless of what a judge believes is a fair sentence.

One scenario;

  • 26 year old man with no criminal history:
  • College graduate
  • Given opioids by the truck load by doctors and coaches to be able to participate in athletics and “play through injuries”.
  • Young man graduates but is a full blown prescription med addict, how could he not be?
  • Can’t get prescriptions now so moves onto cheaper options to try and not be dope sick
  • Young man arrested in Idaho with just over 2 grams of whatever drug for personal use
  • Young man charged with drug trafficking and facing mandatory 3 years to life in prison based solely on amount of drug in his possession
    • The prosecutor does not have to prove this person was selling
    • The prosecutor does not care what circumstances led to the drug use
    • Wasn’t the intent to use mandatory minimums against “kingpins” and “middle-level dealers,” not the minor offenders to whom they have been applied

You can be certain that I will be standing in front of the legislature during the upcoming joint session to scream as loudly as possible about this idiotic law and try to change the incarceration of drug users who need treatment not prison.

If we spent the amount of money on treatment that we do on the incarceration of nonviolent low level drug offenders due to mandatory minimums the prisons in the United States wouldn’t be bursting at the seams.

Here are some articles or you can do a google search and find thousands or outcry’s for change

https://www.pbs.org/newshour/politics/5-charts-show-mandatory-minimum-sentences-dont-work

https://www.washingtonpost.com/posteverything/wp/2017/05/15/mandatory-minimum-sentences-are-cruel-and-ineffective-sessions-wants-them-back/?noredirect=on&utm_term=.20b23d66a7d1

https://www.rollingstone.com/culture/culture-features/mandatory-minimum-sentencing-girlfriend-problem-757690/

 

The quick way to divorce

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My co-worker came in today so excited she was given a Rumba for Christmas.

This little gadget here: would be grounds for divorce in my house. Why you ask?

  • Anyone who knows me is aware that I LOVE to vacuum.
    • The only rooms in my house that have carpet are the bedrooms (which is both good and bad); the additional parts of the house have solid surface floors and throw rugs.
    • I added the rugs to ensure that the floors didn’t get scratched and honestly to provide additional areas for me to clean.
  • It baffles me that anyone would not want to vacuum, are you crazy?
    • I think the all the new electronic gadgets have created a bunch of lazy folks who can’t bend over anymore, my observation of course
    • Now Alexa is a whole other story, she can play music ha
  • Each time I turn on the vacuum that sound gives me such joy
    • I know that when I am done I get to see all the junk that has been sucked up
      • Dog hair, food, dirt, etc. (you have a visual of what you have accomplished)
      • The satisfaction of knowing how clean you have made the floors is great (this includes my cars)
    • Stress relief, yes it works no Xanax for me
      • Just think about it:
        • No one can talk to me when I’m vacuuming
        • The TV can’t be on because you can’t hear it
        • Anything left out the night before has to be picked up so I can vacuum
        • If you are sleeping, it’s time to get up
        • If you put in your headphones you can vacuum with Pharrell (HAPPY)
        • I have a valid reason to move the furniture
          • Last week I was lying in bed at 2 am thinking about how I was going to rearrange the bedroom when we got up
          • I know it’s a sickness don’t judge, ha
          • FYI, My husband loves the new layout, win win

Brow adventures

let’s just be honest as we age our eye brows become sparse or for me pretty much non existent. I decided to go visit my bff’s brow lady this week, here is day 1. They are beautiful but dark, just the first step to the end goal. My husband said Burt from Sesame Street ha. I will post weekly progress but I’m juiced to see the final results.

Ok today was brow touch up, so beautiful

They are always DARK on day 1 but final will be Fantastic

Kitchen remodel a wrap

The kitchen remodel is done. 3 weeks front to back is amazing, my builder is the man. To see the before look at the previous post but I have outlets and lighting everywhere not to mention unlimited cabinet space. My husband will be thrilled when he sees it for the first time in person this week. I have sent pictures daily but you can’t appreciate it until you walk in.

Water

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The past week I decided that I was not drinking nearly enough water. I figured that your water intake should be comparable to your wine intake, ha so I picked up this super cute new water bottle that is 24 ounces and determined it was good to drink 5 of these per day.

I have done a good job of taking the bottle everywhere I go but man the first week I spent more time in the restroom than I did at my desk. Maybe that was just my perception but good lord how many times can one person pee in a day, A LOT I tell you.

The health benefits of drinking water are also a motivator:

  1. Clears toxins- good bye wine
  2. Skin care- maintains turgidity
  3. Relieves constipation- not my issue
  4. Reduces hangover symptoms- again good bye wine
  5. Weight loss- um no I’ve gained 3 lbs, really???
  6. Improves brain function- my old brain needs this
  7. Regulates body temperature- I am the coldest woman in America so let’s hope this is true

I am back in the gym too, this should help eliminate the 3 lbs. of water hopefully but right now I feel like the attached photo. I am hoping that Jesus will come turn my water to wine soon.

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Mini banana cheesecakes

My youngest and his friend are visiting this weekend and his favorite thing in the world is banana cream pie. I decided to switch it up and make mini banana cheesecake and omg are they great. Plastic plate I know is super fancy, ha but these will be gone tonight. Glad I love to bake. Let me know if you want recipe.

The Yard Work Battle

First let me state how grateful I am to be a home owner.

  • I love the fact that I have a large space to keep me busy and that I can close the door and have no one bother me
  • no upstairs or downstairs neighbors
  • no home owners association (the very best thing) 
  • no one complaining if my music is up to loud (I’m old so this doesn’t happen often) ha 
  • ample parking 

The yard work however is never ending. Yesterday after putting in a full day at the office, I came home to a truckload bark in bags. They are of course on sale this week so my husband thought it was a great idea to pick up as many as his truck would hold.

I am now the official “bark spreader”, (yep my title). 

Those bags aren’t going to unload themselves and need to be carried to the back of the house for distribution in the new flower beds.

  • 18 bags later and today my elbows are sore
  • I have never heard of sore elbows, is that real? 

The photos show my progress.  

The simple things

I’m feeling a little under the weather because of cough due to cold as Forrest would say. So when I’m sick I always seem to recognize how little things make my life so great:

  1. The first cup of ☕️ in the morning
  2. A hot bath
  3. Vick’s vapor rub
  4. Clean sheets
  5. The steam sauna
  6. Soft jammies
  7. Cheesecake
  8. Chicken 🐔 noodle soup

Friends

Since moving to Washington 4 years ago we have made some fantastic friends. My girlfriend from high school that I had not seen since the 11th grade has lived here with her wife for years, so of course we have picked up right where we left off. It is not very often you come across two people who are caring and would truly do anything for you.

Now let’s talk about our camping crew. My husband gets to be friends with a guy from work and of course his partner is the best. For the last 3 years we have an annual grass cart camping trip that truly is good for my soul. There are not phones, you get filthy, sleep in tents and cook all your meals on the grill. Doesn’t get any better, I feel like I can exhale when I am camping with these 2 great men.

Last night we had a small get together at our old, new house and we played games on the patio and everyone got to pick a different pandora song each time it was their turn. Needless to say we had way too much fun and I wonder why we don’t get together more often with the people we care about.