Happy Happiest Fall

Anyone who knows me is aware, I live for eggnog and pumpkin season. Well guess what, I found my first batch of nog, yes. It’s a beautiful Fall day in the Pacific Northwest so I off course got up and put on the crockpot full of Mississippi chicken and yep Punkin Eggnog cake. You all need smell o vision because my house is where you wanna be today. Jason I’m thinking of you today 😃

Proud to be a STRONG woman

I felt some kinda way today when I saw a woman I know post a video of her beautiful home with a view. So let me break it down for real. I have worked since I was 13, put myself through college while taking my 2 sons with me to night classes. I have accomplished so much, owned 3 homes and truly am so proud of being able to say I don’t need a man. I love my husband of 30 years but certainly would be a ok without him. This woman since i have met her has looked for ONLY men with money who could take care of her so she could just be cute with no job. And there have been lots. My question is how can you be proud when nothing you have belongs to you? Maybe I’m different but if I drive a Hyundai I paid for it is better than a benz that dude can yank at anytime.

Mad as Hell, A Mom’s Journey

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My son is home and for the first time in a year I have exhaled. The book I wrote to not go crazy on this wild journey of my son’s addiction and incarceration is available this Thursday, September 12th on Kindle and Amazon. My hope is that anyone who reads it will know they are not alone and that I can provide some laughter and hope along the way.

Paint It

I have repeatedly stated how much I love paint therapy, that’s what I call it anyway. Those yellow UGLY oak cabinets are no more. Sunday was the one day in the last month that it didn’t rain so I took full advantage and re-did my bathroom cabinets in a chocolate brown. They look darker in the photo I think because of the light but they are beautiful.

People listen to me, a can of paint is the cheapest way to change the look of an entire room and if you hate it just paint it again, there not a rule saying you can only have 2 coats of paint on a wall. I am not a professional and my saw horse is an old adjustable ironing board that works fantastic. You can move it up and down and it folds away after you are done. It helps that General Finishes makes milk paint. This stuff it ridiculously easy. No sanding, yes you heard me no sanding. You wipe down the cabinets with tsp and you are ready to paint.

They are not paying me to say this but I wish they would ha.. I spend the next few weeks after finishing doing some small touch up and sealing but this is just because you don’t always see areas until the cabinets are hung.

Be BOLD and Go Paint. You won’t regret it, that is everyone except my mother.

Mom please don’t paint I will help you. 


Lessons From a Very Smart Woman


I was raised by a very smart, independent mother. Although her and my dad were married for 20 years and she was a stay at home mom before divorcing, she taught me life lessons that all woman should follow:

  1. Go to school, no one can take away your education
    1. My story- graduated with a bachelors in Computer Information
      Systems at age 37
    2. My 4 year old and a 2 year old went to night classes with me
    3. Doesn’t matter how long it takes or how difficult keep at it
  2. No job is beneath you
    1. My story- starting out at 14 working in the fields topping corn
    2. I was 4 foot 2 and couldn’t reach the tassels but they found me a job
    3. I learned a valuable lesson that hard labor was NOT what I wanted to do in life
  3. Never depend on a partner for financial support
    1. My story- I have NEVER not had a job (or at times 2 or 3) that allowed me to pay my own bills
    2. Sometimes I didn’t know how I was going to eat and pay my bills so I worked at food places (figure it out)
    3. A partner (man or woman) should be a companion who helps in the process but you should not depend on anyone else to take care of you
      1. What if they leave, what you gonna do then?
      2. This ensures you are self-sufficient and self-aware
    4. If you need help don’t be too proud to ask for it
      1. Example: the Wic program provided milk for my young boys for a year at no cost
    5. Create a budget and use the envelope system (Dave Ramsey tells you how to do this today but my mom did this before Dave was born)
      1. My story- I have a spreadsheet that shows where every dollar of my money goes every payday
      2. A meal plan will save you hundreds of dollars because you actually plan your lunch and dinner rather than guessing every day what to eat and you shop for only those ingredients
      3. The meal plan we created when our boys were at home saved us over $400 a month in groceries
      4. Put money away for emergencies- it will happen and items do break even if it’s 10 a week, the dog will get sick and the car will need new tires
      5. Plan for fun- put money away to reward yourself for doing great- date night, movie, or even a pedicure, it doesn’t have to be big but budget for it then you’re not mad when there’s nothing left at the end of the month
    6. Don’t finance if at all possible and never lease
      1. My story- I am still a work in progress on this one
        • We all know cars are not cheap and most of the time we can’t afford what we want to drive
        • Never buy a new vehicle, always buy used so someone else pays the depreciation
  1. It is possible to find great used cars with low miles at a very discounted price and don’t be afraid to ask for a lower price
    • Dealerships are in business to make money and they have some wiggle room regardless of what they tell you
    • As a woman you need to do your research because salesmen think you are stupid (sorry but true) so when you go in with nada book values and fair market pricing they can’t help but talk to you differently
    • My husband in 28 years has never bought any of our vehicles because I love the satisfaction of getting a good deal (he usually leaves when the money talk starts, and don’t be afraid to walk away)
  2. I have made up my own rule on this one, if you have to finance make double payments and try to pay the car off in 1 year or 2 at the most
  • When you lease you are making rent payments essentially and never gaining ownership of anything and the interest charges would make you pass out if you knew what they are
  1. Make a vision board not resolutions
    1. My story- I cut out pictures, quotes, or anything else I want to accomplish each year
      • These can be goals, wants, needs, anything really
      • Post them on a bulletin board and be specific about what you want to achieve
      • Put it in a place you see it everyday
        1. Mine is on the wall by the bed in my room
  1. This puts it out in the universe and helps it come to fruition
    • Don’t believe it try it what do you have to lose
    • I did this with my son’s house and his starter home was almost identical to the photo I had on my board
  2. If everything isn’t done at the end of the year that’s ok but I guarantee it will be more than you ever thought was possible without it

Make 2017 Great