Proud to be a STRONG woman

I felt some kinda way today when I saw a woman I know post a video of her beautiful home with a view. So let me break it down for real. I have worked since I was 13, put myself through college while taking my 2 sons with me to night classes. I have accomplished so much, owned 3 homes and truly am so proud of being able to say I don’t need a man. I love my husband of 30 years but certainly would be a ok without him. This woman since i have met her has looked for ONLY men with money who could take care of her so she could just be cute with no job. And there have been lots. My question is how can you be proud when nothing you have belongs to you? Maybe I’m different but if I drive a Hyundai I paid for it is better than a benz that dude can yank at anytime.

New book

I am writing a book, my oldest going to jail has prompted me to put in writing all the things through out the years that moms deal with.

Title: Mad as Hell

A Moms Journey

Keep watching I will post a link to it once it is available. Truly it is my way of dealing with stress while educating and making people laugh

Addiction lessons

I must say I never thought I would be impacted by addiction but it has smacked me in the face full on. My oldest son who has always been the strong athlete is sitting in rehab getting well. As a college athlete he was given every opioid available to keep him on the field and now he is repairing the damage. I am thankful he is alive and the man he is meant to be has emerged. He has gained 60 lbs of muscle and is not only physically but mentally healthy it is truly amazing. I never knew how horrible the addiction was but am grateful my son has found his purpose. We never understand the struggle or circumstances until god reveals them and he is on his way to a great great great future

Wedding decisions 

Ok I’m old and it has been 26 years since I got married in a 30 dollar dress from Macys. Today I an watching say yes to the dress on tlc and these brides take all their moms, friends, critics, etc. And they are spending thousands on a dress. The friends always have an opinion and don’t like what the bride picks, really?  If you are getting married everyone elses opinion does not matter, pick the dress you love even if you look a hot mess. 

I can tell you from experience the price of the dress has nothing to do with the marriage lasting, clearly by the divorce rate in the US. I love that you want to look beautiful on the big day but that 5 grand could be the down payment on a house or payoff a credit card or car loan making marriage a whole lot easier.

I know way to practical but real people have bills and the struggle for most of us is real. Stop letting your friends dictate your choices as most of them probably wont be around in 10 years anyway, real talk..