The Past and the Present

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I received this picture today from a young lady who I have known since she was little. I don’t remember taking this but I was pregnant with my youngest son who is now 23. I have no idea what was going on with the hair cut (so bad) but the dress is cute. I look so young and innocent, wow how that has changed. I think 25 was a turning point in my life as I decided that I was going to go back to college and finish my degree because I had 2 little lives I was about to set and example for. Best decision ever, 20 years later both my young men are also college grads.

If I could go back in time I certainly would do some things different as a parent but moving forward I need to learn to stop being the helper enabler). I tend to always think about how can I make their lives easier and this often leads to frustration when I feel like I am not being appreciated. Which makes me ask myself do I need to feel appreciated, I guess so. This year I turn 50, oh my god I said it out loud, ha and someone once said if you expect nothing from others you will never be disappointed so for the second half of my journey I am going to continue to try and learn to appreciate and acknowledge myself and all that I am.

 

Old Cranky Home Owners

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We moved into a neighborhood just over a year ago that has a homeowners association which can be both good and bad. I was excited because everyone’s property is maintained but not so happy because some of the rules are silly in my opinion. I went to several meetings when I first moved in and it became evident that if you were under 75 and not retired that you did not fit in with the board. The next month they had elections and someone put in my name for president to ensure that the homeowners were actually being listened to since the CC&R’s have not been updated since 1998. Well on election night the old guy we will call him Bill won the vote because his friends on the committee would not count 50% of the votes for people whose homeowners dues were not paid in full, which is nowhere stated in the rules so super illegal but ok.

Last night was the first meeting I have been to since and talk about a shit show. Bill had an attitude from the jump when myself and the one other homeowner from the community arrived. The other lady who attended the meeting during Q&A time ask if there was a reason that the trim on her townhouse was a lighter color than our newly painted trim and this dumby said well we live in a single family home and you only live in a townhouse. Ugh ok that was not the question. You see where this is headed right me being young and full of spit and vinegar.

We moved onto holiday decorations and I asked what the date is that decorations needed to be removed and if they weren’t down what the process was for the committee. The vice president (Jill) made a joke and said well after 2 weeks we rip them down, everyone laughed and Bill lost his damn mind.

He looked directly at me and said what are you laughing at and I said Jill’s joke, he then proceeded to tell me how he was providing me the opportunity to improve my “reputation” in the neighborhood because no one voted for me for president because they didn’t like me, so it was on at that point, I knew I was dealing with a 12 year old. I said ok well let’s review the facts, 50% of the votes weren’t considered and if they were you wouldn’t be president but that is beside the point your issue is you don’t want anyone questioning or disagreeing with you. I think you have forgotten the whole purpose of this meeting is to allow owners to voice their concerns and provide input so if you don’t like that too bad, I am not intimidated by you being belligerent. He stands up and says I can’t stand you and I am leaving, I said great. I continued to smile and that made him even angrier as he stormed out pointing his finger at me the entire time. Good lord he has truly lost his marbles.

Needless to say after he left and Jill (the VP who made the joke) took over the meeting and it was fantastic. We talked about welcoming new people to the neighborhood; how to improve communications, etc. so I am hopeful today that Bill is resigning, ha. If not I’ll show up at the next meeting.